So, I ask to the women who are still not sure about rape culture, patriarchy, or male supremacy, if you see the problem behind a culture in which “no” is punishable, but where failure to say “no” makes any violation of your personhood your own fault. When you sit back for a moment and think to yourself that surely you can say no to men, and that I am blowing things way out of proportion, then at least do this test within your own life: Start saying No more often when No is what you really want to say. Establish firm boundaries with men and do not let up. See if the male you are saying no to immediately stops and respects your boundary, or if his automatic response, reflexive—as though he’s been learning how to do this since he was a boy, as though he sees no other response more logical than this—is to attempt to do what you have just asked him not to do to you. Notice how you feel when telling a man “no” as well. Do you feel butterflies in your stomach? Do you feel guilty (denying him his right of access to you)? Do you feel mean? Do you feel unsure at all as to whether or not you have the right to tell him no? It is very easy to feel that men are not so bad when you are still making sure to give them what they want.
"IT IS VERY EASY TO FEEL THAT MEN ARE NOT SO BAD WHEN YOU ARE STILL MAKING SURE TO GIVE THEM WHAT THEY WANT"
oh god that last sentence!
I spent like 10 years of my life pretending to fly around on a broomstick and you’re asking me if preparing for a love scene was ‘tricky’ because the other person also had a penis?
(Left to Right): Peter Buffett, Jimmie Briggs, Joe Ehrmann, Tony Porter,
Dave Zirin and Moderator Eve Ensler.
why do people say “don’t be a pussy” when talking about weakness more like “don’t be a man’s ego” because you know there isn’t nothing more fragile than that
because “pussy” is the shortened form of the word “pusillanimous”, which means “timid, cowardly”
and not the slang word for the female genital region?
literally no one else knows this. nobody.
Only now it is the slang word for female genitals (because language changes…) and they used a word that means ‘timid and cowardly’ for a very specific reason. Obviously.
I’m very much not a fan of judging Jewishness or whether or not someone is a “good Jew” based on the extent to which they are religiously observant, or even whether or not they are religious at all.
Secular/non-practicing Jews are not lesser Jews, full stop.Agreed. And when gentiles use the phrase “bad Jew” to apply to the eating habits of someone who doesn’t keep kosher…
I do that all the time to myself. I’m not actually offended by it or anything. I’m much more wary when I can sense anti-semitic undertones and I won’t say anything negative about Jews in those circumstances (and i’ll call you out if you do!). but otherwise…
Does this really bother people?
I think rejecting feminism because ‘we’re all equal now’ is part of white, western privilege. Not that women (or men) are required to identify as feminists, but to say it’s not relevant anymore or any of the other shit people say when rejecting feminism completely ignores women all over the world who don’t live in the western world.